Every year of my life we have always had holiday meals at my parents. My mother loves to do all the cooking and baking for the holidays. I wont lie I do love going to my parents and do love my mother's cooking.. My mother is a very sick woman and has had differnet types of cancer through out her life and has beat them all, but she also has other health issues. How do I get her to let me do this for our familywithout upsetting her? We have a big family, there is her and my father, me and my husband, or 3 kids and our 4 grandkids. I have told her mom please let me do the cooking for the holidays and all it did was make her mad. I didn't say it to make her mad. I just want her to relax for once aand let someone else to all the work. I am 41 years old and my mother has been doing this for 41 years. I think it's time she enjoys the holidays, and not do all the work....